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Make Peace With Your Mind

Being With Children

How many times have you heard someone say that they are going to spend ‘quality’ time with the kids? Quality time may have a different meaning to people depending on their perspective. The true meaning of quality as a word gives a perception of a more important time thus putting a label on the event. In fact, the word gives an impression of trying to make it a better time for children but in reality the trying part is not required. Being with your children, that is, giving them your full attention, is all that is needed.
Being with the child and treating him or her as your equal is more than doing any special activity could ever accomplish. It can be labelled ‘quality time’ as long as the being is primary and the doing is secondary.
Try not to talk down to children as if you are superior, guide young ones, point them in the right direction be there with them. Let them explore and discover for themselves and refrain from passing judgement or correcting every perceived wrong-doing. They will make mistakes like everyone else, they will learn by those mistakes. Our Daughters are different little people when given our full attention. It is like we are one with them and they with us, when we just be with them.
Life is a part of the youngest to the oldest human , the one life is in all humans. Acknowledge the life in children and recognise how connected you are. Notice by doing nothing and just being brings you closer. See life in everything.

Just be there, that is all children need. That is all most of us need.

 

 

 

 

 

Posted: July 2nd, 2008 under children.
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Children As Teachers

When you have young children, you will understand when I say, they can be incredibly trying at times. When my two girls become tired and grumpy at the end of the day it can be rather difficult, as parents, to keep a level head amidst the screaming and crying. I can see a fantastic opportunity here to “value” our children as teachers . It is through our children that we can learn to live in the present moment. It is also through our children we can learn how the human mind develops, just by watching them grow. It is through our children we can see how facts can be blinded by emotions. It is through our children we can learn how simple life is.

The next time you see children playing, whether it be yours or someone elses,  just take a moment and observe how carefree they are. Not weighed down by any worrying thoughts about how they look or are carrying themselves. They have no past life to hinder them. They will accept other children without discrimination. Give it a try one day, play like a child yourself and look at the smile on your face afterwards. Don’t be held back because you will look silly as this is only your view of someone else’s perception of you. It is not the real world anyway, they are just thoughts. So go out and carry on,  laugh and be carefree it is liberating and stress reducing. You won’t be disappointed. Live in the present moment, and feel like that always.

Posted: June 6th, 2008 under children.
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